The Gym. A Love Hate Relationship

Ok girls. Let’s get real, who here also has a love hate relationship with the gym? I find it hard to get the motivation to go but as soon as I do I feel so much better for it. I sleep better, I’m less stressed, I feel better about my body.

The only issue is, I seem to fall in and out of love with the gym in waves. I can’t seem to sustain my it. The last week is a classic example…I had a big weekend, ruined all my hard work from the week before and as a result haven’t been to the gym all week. The result? Feeling pretty shitty about myself and that then leads to me eating more and having a ‘what’s the point mentality?’.

I need to reset and I need to do it asap. I’m off to a friends wedding in July and the last think I want to be feeling is hideous in my nice pretty dress. I don’t want to be insecure anymore and I don’t want to keep moaning about it.

Here are some rules I’m going to set myself so that I don’t fall back into old ways…ways that don’t involved regular gym sessions.

  1. MAKE THE TIME. No more excuses, if I can’t go in the evening get an early night and go early in the morning.
  2. Don’t go more than two days without exercising. The longer you take a break the easier it is to give up.
  3. Plan ahead. Both when I will go to the gym and what I’ll do.
  4. Stop hating on my body.
  5. Eat healthy, cut the crap out. Diet (as in WHAT you eat, not extreme fad ‘miracle’ diets) is everything.

And that’s that ladies! I’d love to hear any tips or advice you have to help.

F x

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Real Talk…I’ve Fallen Out of Love with My Body

Let’s be real, are there many girls who can say they truly love themselves, their body, 100%? I certainly don’t know many who do. I’ve fell out of love with my body a long time ago. In fact, I can’t remember the last time I looked in the mirror and didn’t pick some fault in what I saw.

Since uni I’ve slowly been gaining weight…over a stone of it since 2012. And I can’t seem to make it budge. At uni I weighed anywhere between 8 and 8 ½ stone and was very happy with my body. I walk dup to uni every day, I danced for about 8 hours a week (me and my friends ran the dance society) and I went running on top of that. I’m now sitting around 9 ½ stone on my 5ft2 frame…and I don’t feel comfortable.

My clothes are a little tight…I don’t feel confident, well in pretty much anything. All I see when I look in the mirror is my stomach pooch, broad shoulders, cellulite on my thighs/butt and big legs. This is not a healthy image to have of myself, and one I know is probably blown way out of proportion in my head. Nonetheless, I’ve decided something needs to change, and only I can do it.

I’m going to work my ass off to lose the weight I’ve gained and fall back in love with my body. This time I’m not giving up. By writing it here, I’m accountable. I can’t just say ‘Oh, I’ll start again on Monday’. It’s written here, and it’s out there in the wonderful world of the internet.

It’s time for me to fall back in love with the gym, and back in love with my body.

Check back in for progress updates.

F x

My Skin Story

Some girls and guys go through life with no skin problems at all. You know those people who have perfectly porcelain skin, no visible pores, not oily, no irregular skin-tone and of course…no blemishes. I am not one of those people and since I was about 17 (I’m now 26) have really struggled to get my spots under control.

Anyone who has experienced acne – yes I’m going to say the word however much I hate it – will know how crippling the effects can be. At first my skin was pretty much like any other teenagers, I’d get the odd spot here and there but then I started to get them more often and they were bigger, more angry, more painful and took so much longer to go away.

I tried all the over counter products you could think of and eventually decided to go to the doctor when my skin didn’t show any improvements. The list of medications I’ve tried is vast; Duac, Oxytetracycline, Zineryt, Tetracycline, Lymecycline, many variations of the contraceptive pill, even laser treatment – you name it I tried it. Nothing really helped. I did experience one year of randomly clear skin at uni but then, you guessed it the spots returned and this time with vengeance.

To give you an idea of how this made me feel, I would cry daily. Mostly in private but often on the phone to my mum about how my skin made me feel. I would endlessly search for the next ‘miracle cure’ acne treatment hoping that it would make a difference. I would often do my make-up, feel it hadn’t covered my spots enough take it off and completely start again. I panicked whenever I thought I might be caught without my make-up on. I avoided staying over at friends houses for this exact reason, I even hated being make-up free in front of my best friend. I avoided mirrors when my face was bare as I would obsess over how many spots I had, panic when I saw a new one and hate what was staring back at me.

To my friends I think I hid my upset pretty well, I did talk about my skin but I was never completely honest with how horrendous it made me feel. They’d all tell me it ‘wasn’t that bad’ and ‘would clear up’ but to me it felt like empty words. It didn’t help with the situation right there and then.

After uni I moved to London and decided to visit my doctor back home in Suffolk where my parents lived. I hadn’t spoken to him about my skin as my parents had moved there from Surrey whilst I was at uni and I would often just visit the medical centre on campus if I needed anything. He was the first doctor that took me seriously, that seemed to understand how much acne can effect someones mood and he referred me to a Dermatologist.

I remember sitting in the waiting room at the hospital, I refused to take my make-up off in there. I cried when I had to remove it in the consultation room. I cried again when I was told I wouldn’t be able to start a course of Isotretrinoin (more commonly known as Roaccutane) for another month because I wasn’t on the pill. It can be really harmful to unborn babies so it’s important you are on the contraceptive pill.

I completed a 6 month treatment and at the end of it my skin was completely clear. Now let’s get it straight – roaccutane is not an easy ride. There can be some pretty drastic side effects but luckily I only suffered with very dry skin and cracked lips.  This was it. I thought my acne was going to be cured forever…it was a miracle!

Hmmmm not quite. Some people only ever need one course of roaccutane and there skin stays clear forever. Unfortunately I was not one of those people. Panic set in when my spots started to come back, what was I going to do!!!!???

Then I found out about acne.org and my life changed. I read (and this is no joke) HUNDREDS of testimonials about their products. It’s only stocked in the U.S so it wasn’t going to be cheap if this was the route I was going to head down. With that in mind I wanted to be 100% sure.

I ordered the full treatment; cleanser, benzoyl peroxide, moisturiser and glycolic acid. The way you apply these is really specific, and you must stick to it. Everything is explained in detail and it’s really important you don’t cut corners, especially when you first start using the products.

I was patient and in-time my skin started to improve. Then it really started to clear up. Then my scars started to fade until I got to the point where I felt confident enough not to wear make-up at the weekend, or at the gym, or if I was popping down the road to pick something up from the supermarket.

This stuff changed my life. No dramatics, no over exaggeration, no lies. It’s expensive, it’s time-consuming but my god it works and the sacrifices both financially and in time are so worth it. I honestly can’t recommend acne.org highly enough. It was my last resort and I’m so glad I took the plunge.

The confidence I have in my skin is now better than it has ever been. I no longer cry about how it looks without make-up or panic if I get caught without any on. I actually ENJOY taking my make-up off at the end of the day and going whole weekends without putting any on. If you’re looking for something that works and works long term, you have to give this a go.

Thank you acne.org for giving me back my skin confidence.

Fay x

p.s. I really want to share pictures of what my skin looked like before but I’m a little nervous. You may have to bear with me on this one until I am ready to do that.

Let’s Talk About…Stress

Stress. We’ve all felt it at some point, some of us more than others. Some people work well under stress, thrive on it even. They find they do their best work or come up with their greatest ideas. Others however find it much more difficult to cope with, I am one of those people.

Stress is something I often feel and this can be for any number of reasons; work, home, money etc. In the past I’ve not been so great at dealing with it, in fact last year I even fell ill with shingles because of it. Side note: shingles is the single most painful thing I’ve experienced, I was on holiday in Barcelona at the time so couldn’t do anything but dose up on painkillers.

In 2017 I decided it was time to get a grip on my stress triggers and start doing something about them. Below are some of the things that really help me to stay calm, improve my mood and calm the f**k down.

 

Colouring:

I’d read a lot about the calming effects of colouring and have also seen it’s popularity grow over the last year simply by the number of colouring books available for adults now. Step into any Paperchase, Waterstones or W.H. Smith and you’ll be able to find one easily. There are so many different versions and themes but I decided to buy this pretty and classic colouring book. No matter how pent-up, stressed, anxious or annoyed I’m feeling 30 mins – 1 hour of colouring in this helps to reset my mood completely. I find it really relaxing and helps to clear my mind.

 

Yoga:

This is a pretty obvious one and if I’m honest yoga is not something I got on with at first. I found it uncomfortable, difficult and felt like it actually made my mood worse not better! That was until I tried hot yoga with a friend at Fierce Grace. I don’t know if it was the added heat that helped me relax or the studio itself but I was converted. I have since been to normal yoga classes and felt the full effects. I walk away feeling calm, collected and reset. Now I try and do some form of yoga at least once a week.

 

Essential Oil Diffuser:

I first heard about the benefits of essential oils from my all-time favourite blogger Lauryn Evarts of The Skinny Confidential. She was snap chatting and instagramming about oils and her diffuser and I just knew I needed to get involved. You can read her original post on them here. I decided to invest in an essential oil diffuser and get in on the action. The one I got was pretty inexpensive and super easy to order from Amazon. I then took myself off to Neal’s Yard and picked out Tea Tree oil which is known for its cleansing properties and also Neroli which is super relaxing and smells incredible. You just add a couple of drops (or in my case 6/7) to the water in your diffuser and away you go! I use this when I’m working at home or at night before bed, it turns off automatically when the water has run out so you don’t have to worry about falling asleep with it on! Links to each product below…

Sleep Stories:

Finally we’re going to talk bed time stories. Yep, that’s right bed time stories for us grown-ass adults. My flatmate first told me about the Calm app just before we went on a trip to Kenya with a group of our friends. No word of a lie we listened to a story every night that holiday and I slept so well. The Waterfall started and I fell asleep before Mia had even left her garage most nights…you’ll have to download it to find out what that means but basically THEY WORK. I highly highly recommend this or a meditation app if you have trouble sleeping. It works like a dream…pardon the pun.

Fay x

Life Laundry

Ok, let’s get real. We all need to do a little but of life laundry from time to time, and by life laundry I mean getting your shit in order.

Going through those clothes you haven’t worn for months. Ordering your paperwork. THROWING SHIT YOU DON’T NEED AWAY.

I’m not going to lie, I’m pretty good at this. I have a ruthless streak which is perfect for life laundry tasks, friends of mine often call on me to help them with the task as I’m honest a.f. and will get the job done.

Here are my tips for an effective life laundry session…

  • Set aside time. You can’t do this off the cuff, you need to have a few hours at the very least.
  • Have a clear goal. What is it you want to achieve? Do you want to set aside clothing for charity or to sell? Do you want to order all of your paperwork into a system so everything is easy to find? Knowing this will help you to finish the job.
  • Be firm. You need to make decisions, if you’re not good at doing this get a friend to help.
  • Don’t do it if you’re not in the mood. You’ll be more inclined to give up or do a Hal arsed job.
  • Take pride in it. Think of all the positives this will bring!

It’s really good to do this. It sets time aside for YOU and helps YOU get your sh*t together. Decluttering and getting rid of things you don’t need helps keep you on the path of continuous improvement.

If you haven’t done it before I suggest you give it a try. It really will make you feel great!

Fay x

21 Days of Gratitude

I had a little bit of a tough year in 2016. By no means the worst but I had some challenges towards the end of the year. There was a succession of things that happened that made me wish in 2017 that little bit faster. I won’t bore you with all the details but I was pretty stressed out at work, fell ill with shingles whilst on holiday and got burgled losing all of my sentimental jewellery all in the space of two months…not ideal.

So with 2016 behind me, I decided this year was going to be filled with positivity and mindfulness. That’s when I came across the 21 days of gratitude challenge – it couldn’t have been better timing. I’d heard about this before but never really thought about actually doing it, well this time, I did!

Let’s be honest, the majority of us live very comfortable, fulfilled lives and are left wanting for very little. But do we ever actually stop to take time and be thankful for the things we have, no matter how big or small? I know I certainly didn’t. I decided every night for 21 days before bed I would take time and write down something I was grateful for.

I’m not going to lie, it was a lot harder than I thought. I started overthinking what I was writing and this meant I got stuck for ideas. As soon as I stopped worrying and just wrote the first thing that came into my head…no matter how silly or personal it became easier. I’m going to share with you all 21 of the things I was grateful for at that time. Remember, don’t judge. These were the things that came to my mind at that time.

If I was to do it again they might be completely different and I should do it again. It’s really important to take time, reflect and think about the little things in life. Oh I nearly forgot, I also found and wrote down a little quote each day that I found inspirational, I’ll include those too.

Ok so here goes…

Day 1: My family and how much they support me. 

“You are the only one who can limit your greatness. Remember you are enough.”

Day 2: Charlotte (my best friend). Since we met in our first week of uni she has been a rock for me. My sidekick for life.

“When it rains look for rainbows, when it’s dark look for stars.”

Day 3: The everyday privileges that I so often take for granted.

“Don’t decrease the goal. Increase the effort.”

Day 4: Having a fulfilling job that allows me to work with some amazing people.

“What consumes your mind, controls your life.”

Day 5: Flowers. Something so simple but brings so much happiness.

“Inhale the future, and exhale the past.”

Day 6: Being able to travel and explore new countries.

“Be a girl with a mind, a woman with attitude, and a lady with class.”

Day 7: Access to education and the opportunity to expand my knowledge on whatever subject I choose.

“It’s okay to be a glow stick sometimes, we need to break before we shine.”

Day 8: iMessage, WhatsApp and email. Enabling us to connect with friends and family more often.

“One small POSITIVE THOUGHT in the morning can change your whole story.”

Day 9: Friendships. both old and new, longstanding and those who have fallen by the way side.

“Heal the past, live the present, dream the future.”

Day 10: The country and the coast. My two escapes.

“Being happy is a very personal thing. And it really has nothing to do with anyone else.”

Day 11: Tea. The Great British problem solver.

“Characterise people by their actions and you will never be fooled by their words.”

Day 12: Home. My retreat and my happy place.

“YOUR POTENTIAL IS ENDLESS. GO DO WHAT YOU WERE CREATED TO DO.”

Day 13: Candlelight. Peaceful, beautiful candlelight.

“Attitude is the difference between an ordeal and an adventure.”

Day 14: Mumma. Her endless love and support for all three of her children. She would do anything for us.

“Go the extra mile. It’s never crowded.”

Day 15: Books. Enabling you to escape from reality.

“A good life is when you assume nothing, do more, need less, smile often, dream big, laugh a lot and realise how bless you are.”

Day 16: Clean sheets. One of the best feelings in the world.

“If you get TIRED, learn to REST not to quit.”

Day 17: The weekend. Time for me, friends, admin, freedom and exploration.

“Today do something for you.

Day 18: Running and exercise. Helps me clear my mind.

“Don’t lose a diamond while chasing glitter.”

Day 19: Cold fresh air on hungover stuffy mornings.

“Small changes eventually add up to huge results.”

Day 20: The cold side of the pillow.

“Your attitude determines your direction.”

Day 21: Life. I’m very lucky and privileged to have all that I do.

“The greatest pleasure in life if doing what people say you cannot do.”

Fay x

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Home – Suffolk

Bad Starts and Busy Weeks

So the whole ‘I’m going to post as much as I can’ thing hasn’t really got off to the best start. I’ve had a really busy couple of weeks at work and in a bid to have a social life and fit in a few gym sessions my writing has suffered.

I think for this to work long term, I’ll have to write posts in advance so I can then just pop them live. Some lunch plans I had today have fallen through so in a bit to be productive I’m going to spend the day getting as much writing done as possible. I’ve been sleeping really badly recently and I managed to get a good 10 hours last night so I’m feeling refreshed and ready!

This weekend is about regaining balance and re-setting. I’ve been thinking a lot about how I’m not 100% happy with my body/weight, feel like I don’t gym enough and need to get my life in some sort of order. This morning I decided I was going to stop talking about it and actually get it done! I’ll check back in to let you know how it goes.

This post has been short and sweet but I promise to get on it properly and put stuff up regularly. Have a fab weekend and enjoy the sunshine!!

Fay x

P.s. Wish I was sat back on this beach in Marbella…London’s not quite the same!

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Introducing Fortune Favours…

FaySo a little about me. I’m 26 and live in London, England. I studied Law at uni but now work in marketing for a restaurant company. I’m going to be really honest…I’m quite nervous about writing this. Blogging is something I’ve been talking about doing for a really long time now and thought it was about time I stopped talking and actually did it!

Why Fortune Favours? I really like the saying ‘fortune favours the brave’, it denotes that successful people are often those that are willing to take risks. For me, this blog is a risk. Writing in the public domain is quite out of my comfort zone but sometimes you have to do things that make you feel uncomfortable in order to grow. With that the name Fortune Favours seemed the right fit.

What will my blog be about? I work in the hospitality industry so this is going to be all about the other things I love in life; beauty, fitness and fashion (a little bit of food might sneak it’s way in from time to time though!).

I’m sure it will take a while to get into the swing of it but I’ll try and keep posts as regular as possible. For now I’ll start by wishing you a very happy Easter and hope you have a wonderful day!

Fay x